October 3, 2011

Searching

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Over coffee with a friend we stumbled over a mutual friend’s name. A name I had emailed just days before, a name of someone I know well, We moved on in the conversation, though it was driving me crazy. My fingers itched to do a quick search for him on my iPhone. I resisted, willing my brain to kick in. Still no name. And then it came to my friend – “James” she pronounced. Yes, James. We chuckled at our memory loss. Later that day the friend sent me a text “Funny about James.” And yes, for Read the rest of this entry »

July 15, 2011

#death

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At the recent memorial service of our family friend David, his friends had a lot to say. And they said it in his words. Speaking from over 5000 saved emails, text messages and fb posts, his soul was revealed. This archiving was powerful, both provocative and revealing.

I frequently instruct my kids that every word they write, and text is permanent. I do this to allay a false sense of privacy, to protect them Read the rest of this entry »

June 15, 2011

Rites

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Kevorkian saw himself as King or Mandela. I saw him as more creepy than courageous. I didn’t understand that he was intentionally provocative. In the HBO documentary Kevorkian, he says, “Someone has to go to jail for change to happen.” And he did, and change happened.

He died as he intended, quietly and without pain. Just the way he intended for all of us to die, as we choose, and with dignity. But his was not a quiet life. His New York Times obituary confirms the controversial paradigm shift Read the rest of this entry »